Naming the pattern is such a smart frame. Default Dad as an OS thats just outdated instead of personal failure takes some of the shame out of recognizing the gap between present and futre state. The part about repair as a normal script really lands, cause kids need to see us mess up and recalibrate, not perform perfection.
Love the practical tips. The goal is to completely remove default mode but to recognize and upgrade it.
Naming the pattern is such a smart frame. Default Dad as an OS thats just outdated instead of personal failure takes some of the shame out of recognizing the gap between present and futre state. The part about repair as a normal script really lands, cause kids need to see us mess up and recalibrate, not perform perfection.
I love the thought that it reduces some of the shame, which helps us recalibrate more easily.